Brittany at Rewriting Motherhood was kind enough to award this to me, even though I never comment over there much less update over here. She is a sweetheart and I hope to meet her in person soon!
Here are the rules:
First, admit one thing you feel awful about involving being a Mom. Get it off your shoulders. Once you’ve written it down, you are No Longer allowed to feel bad. It’s over with, it’s in the past. Remember, you’re a good Mom!
(I’m cadging Brittany’s response. Because I feel the same. Exact. Way.) I feel bad that sometimes I care more about having peace and quiet than I do about being with my own children. I find myself trying to tune them out, find ways to put space between us, and really thrill at the idea of the day when they both attend half day school five days a week. It’s not that I don’t love them, but I have the energy level of an introvert, and must have peace and quiet to internally reboot.
Then, remind yourself you are a good Mom, list seven things you love about your kids, you love doing with your kids, or that your kids love about you. These are the things to remind yourself everyday that you rock!
1. I am totally serious and intense, so I love it when I surprise my boys by doing something totally off-the-wall and silly. Their eyes get really wide and then they open up with laughter. It is the best way to connect with them!
2. I love sharing scientific facts and interests with Hamlet. He has such a mind for detail and even though I can’t get too in-depth with him yet, he really wants to know how things work and why. I love being the person to show him.
3. I love what great friends they are. Even when they spend much of the day fighting, they really do love each other and it shows. I hope they are such good friends for the rest of their lives.
4. I do have to laugh when they argue. It’s near constant and they never agree on anything. It is just so funny sometimes to hear them go back and forth as they each try to differentiate themselves from each other.
5. I love when I get to take a break from work to go do something fun with them.
6. They love when I let them do grown-up things like press the button on my camera, type something on my laptop, or help me cook dinner.
7. I love that I have finally grown into being a mom. It took quite a bit longer than I ever expected, but I am so thankful that it was “OK” and for the most part I was given room to allow it to happen naturally. I think it ultimately made me a better mom, even if I do long for more space and time! (Who doesn’t?)
Finally, I am supposed to link 5 other mothers across the Blog-o-sphere, to nominate them for this award.
Wow! A nomination! Very cool.
Thank you.
Actually Brittany nominated you too, and I agreed with her.
I loved reading your post, Christa, and thanks for the nomination.
You more than deserve it, ML. Thanks for reading.
Here’s the worst thing I did but I had good intentions. When my kids were in high school, I left sample SAT questions on their bedside table every night. They still tell this story twenty years later.
Hi:
Love your blog. I think your rules on being a mom are great. I think we all go through the highs and lows of being mothers. However, the good thing is that we can get back up from our pits of despair. Also it’s good to know we’re not alone. For every one mother, there’s probably a thousand others who experience the same things we do in a given day.
Congrats on your articles and I wish you the best in your other writing endeavors and motherhood journeys!
Tiffany Godfrey, The Resource Writer
http://www.thewriterresourcepit.blogspot.com