Archive for September, 2007
Today over at Working Stiffs, guest blogger Victoria Thompson writes, “The ideas just come, but the time sure doesn’t. It just flies. Away.” How true, how true.
I write about transitions at the beginning and end of every school year, because every transition brings new challenges. This year, Boris is mobile. And not just innocuously crawling. The child is the reason baby-proofing was invented. He deliberately targets the things he shouldn’t have, and he knows he shouldn’t have them. He laughs when he hears “no” and crawls faster.
At the same time, Hamlet, now in his second year of preschool, has lots of new things knocking about his little noggin. As a result, he has difficulty falling asleep about every other night or two. Result (since he needs company): evenings have a way of slipping away.
I couldn’t help thinking about Victoria’s post and the comments thereafter while this particular evening slipped away. We commenters talked about the criticality of making time for writing, but very often in such conversations, I get the feeling that folks think in terms of giving up niceties – like nightly Law & Order reruns, or blog time, or what have you. Very few people talk about that old Economics 101 bugaboo: opportunity cost.
Rain Dog and I have had trouble reconciling time in the past. This year, because my business has been so shaken up with the new baby and various jobs coming and going, I chose to devote my time to the kids while he prepared for the new year. It worked out for a few weeks, but I find now that I’m itching to get back to my work. There isn’t much of it, but dealing with these two strong little personalities leaves me drained by the end of the day. And when I’m spending that end with the same people I’ve spent the last 12 hours with? Oh, I get a mite frustrated. It doesn’t help that to recoup some of that time lost, I keep late night hours, even though the boys often get me up at 7am.
It’s clear that Rain Dog and I must share bedtime responsibilities more evenly, because right now, I feel like business has all but ground to a halt. I may not be able to do much to build it right now, not to the level it was once at, but I need to feel I’m accomplishing more than a few sentences a day. And although the mommy guilt niggles at me, telling me that in just a few short years I’ll actually miss laying down with the boys, even she must know that it would be better for all of us if I could feel more productive – and thus, less prone to snap.
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As far back as a couple of years ago, I was interested in supporting writing parents via this blog. I interviewed a few but was never really sure how to go about getting into it for real. Now that I’ve become involved with MotherTalk.com, that other bloggers have referred publicists to me and that those publicists have contacted me independently, I’m starting to think the promotional aspect of blogging is a good pursuit for me.
This doesn’t mean that the tone of the blog will change. I’ll still write about my experiences as a writing parent. But part of helping other parents isn’t just validating their work; it’s also celebrating their success and trying to further it.
So please – if you’re a writing parent and you have a book coming out, let me know. I have limited time so I can’t promise a book review, but we can talk about how you make it all work and plug your book at the same time. Sound like a deal?
I’ve been trying like Hades for the past two weeks to come up with a thoughtful entry, but can’t seem to get hold of one. I can barely get hold of story ideas. This would bother me if it weren’t that time of year again, and for the fact that Boris has a horrible sleep schedule (as in, no schedule at all, day or night). So in honor of my state of mind lately, I leave you with two tidbits:
George A. Romero has a new zombie movie coming out… this week! I’m woefully behind the curve on this one and I can’t believe I didn’t hear about it sooner, but then again it’s not like we have a Fangoria subscription (or the time to devote to reading it). Well, the important thing is, Romero is excited about Diary of the Dead because it is his first totally independent project since Night.